My geek side is here to stay

Leia and Kirk? That guy can get any girl! :)

I love Star Wars. I love Star Trek. I love science fiction in general. I love Monty Python. I grew up watching these things. I am also a huge fan of action films. I do love a good fight scene. And yet I spent a number of years of my adult life not watching any of these things. I found myself in a long term relationship where that part of me was not understood... not appreciated. Now, it's not like I started out saying "Oh, I'm not going to watch these things and I'll just ignore this part of my personality." But it wasn't a shared interest. And, quite honestly, being a girl and wanting to get along I deferred to watch things that we both liked... or that he liked. I just always kind of assumed I'd get my stuff worked in somewhere along the way.

I also grew up in a household with parents who liked to watch different things. Mom liked movies. Dad liked sports. My mom said that the key to a happy marriage was 2 TV sets. Of course I ended up dating someone who basically wanted to be Velcroed to my side all the time... so no 2 TVs were gonna happen.

I've been out of that relationship for 3 years now. And the idea of neglecting parts of my personality seems ridiculous. I can't even fathom how I ever let my geek side disappear for so damn long. These days I go to sci-fi conventions, I watch almost nothing but action and sci-fi flicks... I still love a good romantic comedy, but good romantic comedies are few and far between. Most of them suck ass these days.

Compromise is a necessary component in relationships, platonic and romantic alike. But there should not be compromise on personality. Someone either likes you or they don't. They accept you or they don't. And in my life if you don't... well, there's the door. :)